One thing that marriage support specialists have in common is to assume you’re doing something wrong that needs to be fixed.
Sadly, this is also the assumption of men who seek their help.
That’s an easy marketing because it leverages on two things. The insecurity of many humans have. This is the basic of advertising. In fact, you may have heard commercial ads wants to sell you something to make you look (or smell) better so people like you more, you become more popular!
Drink Coca-coca and you will be more popular and trough more parties
Buy this car and you will be the perfect family father.
Etc.
Two. It relies on the abuse and projection that your spouse has been subjecting you for years and that has worn your self-confidence thin.
Let me tell you this.
Everybody can and should improve and strive to be the better version of themselves, always. But this does not mean you are flawed right now.
The way you are right now is perfect. You are perfect as you are.
If your wife or your spouse complains about you, it does not tell anything about you. It tells about her. It tells that she can only function with a husband that she deems incomplete, inferior.
The moment you start improving – not fixing – yourself, two things may happen.
1️⃣ She will like you even less because you are no longer inferior or flawed, to her eyes.
2️⃣ You will like her less because she is no longer up to your standards.
In the 3 situations, the now and the 2 futures, your marriage is always imperfect.
Because it was built on the past premises
Built on a less strong you.
It’s possible – but not very common in my experience – that both of you start improving each of you (without focusing on the marriage) and you both will grow in a direction that will make you meet in a better place.
You don’t have to wait for the final result to figure out. You just need to observe is she is starting to work on herself the way you’re working on yourself.
You just need to check if she’s embarking on the journey.
If not, you will grow apart. And you should start rebuilding your romantic life.
I know you believe me, and you know it deep in your heart, but you need time and commitment to act on this concept. But let’s make it easy for you
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